No, the government should not have control over the churches because that is a persons individual opinon on everything and if the government had control of the churches then they would be telling everyone what to belive and how to belive it, which is very wrong.
I think it is better to be loved because if you're loved then more people would want to be around you and more people would like you. Like, if you're a loved leader then you would probably rule longer than if you were feared because no one would want to overrule you.